While I don’t have regrets about my past behaviors, I do see how I was not taking responsibility for myself. Consistently, I look for comfort, joy, and care in other people. As my heart begins to ache, I immediately reach out to friends to help me process or feel better. Inevitably, when folks are not available at that moment, I turn to myself saying I am alone and no one loves me and I’m unlovable and broken.

If you’ve ever felt powerless or like your voice was taken away, try these affirmations and notice how they make you feel.

I did a loving-kindness meditation when I woke up this morning and it was hard. I was invited to find aspects of my present self that I appreciate and am proud of. I could name a few things but didn’t feel the love.

What if resilience isn’t about bouncing back?

Dangling from its long branches are ribbons and small papers, subtly dancing with the breeze.